Author: Judy O

  • The Art of the Postcard

    The Art of the Postcard

    The postcard — it’s the ultimate souvenir …

    It’s cheap, easy to pack, and provides professionally photographed mementos of your travels. There’s a postcard for everyone, with options ranging from the elegant to the outrageously tacky.

    The humble post card demands little of its sender, yet its rewards are great. Your recipient sees your message and picture instantly — no need to open an envelope. You can spread good cheer. And you let friends and family know you’re thinking of them.

    Could you be underestimating these simple 4 x 6 inch cardboard missives?

    Here are five ways to reach out with postcards:

    Start Collecting

    Set aside a small box or section of a desk drawer for organizing your postcard collection. Add a couple of sheets of “Forever” postcard stamps. Now, it’s easy to send a quick note and stay in touch!

    Stock up on your next trip

    Next time you travel for business or vacation, take advantage of opportunities to add to your postcard collection. You can send your new postcard from your current location or after you return home. Either way, they will be appreciated!

    Source locally

    Collect postcards from your favorite local restaurants, gift shops, and historic sites. These items are easy to miss — after all, who buys souvenirs at home? However, once you start looking, you will likely notice them in unexpected places. Use local postcards to send quick notes and a welcome bit of nostalgia to friends and family who have moved away or are unable to visit.

    Design your own postcard

    Want to use your own photography or artwork as cover art? Use a service such as Canva or Vistaprint to design, upload, and print postcards with your custom images.

    Keep it simple

    Keep your message short and punchy. Where did you travel? What did you see? What might interest your receiver? A postcard can be a one-sentence wonder: a shared joke, a heartfelt sentiment, or the next chess move in a remote game. The meaning of your message might even depend completely on the context of the card or conversation:

    Medieval art with a skull: “Memento Mori”

    Alcatraz: “Don’t cheat!”

    Australian Pub: “Cheers!”

    Ready, Set , Write!

    Now that you have a growing postcard collection, you’ll need a few more items to prepare for postcard writing fun:

    • A favorite pen or two
    • A book, list, or app with contact addresses
    • A place to keep your postcards supplies and stamps handy — a zippered pencil case designed for school notebooks is the perfect size

    A note of caution: Do remember that a postcard may be read by anyone who sees it, so avoid including sensitive information or any message you wouldn’t want another friend, family member, or stranger to see.

    Happy writing!

  • Every Day Notes and Letters

    Every Day Notes and Letters

    A handwritten letter conveys personal warmth, caring, and affection in a way a text or email cannot. Consider for a moment how you feel when you check the mail and discover a hand-addressed envelope on sturdy cotton or linen stationery. How different this is from receiving another email in your inbox, where you may not even see it in a torrent of daily messages!

    A note of gratitude, sympathy, or celebration needn’t be complicated, lengthy, or expensive. And while your recipient may cherish a three-page heartfelt letter filled with thoughfully-crafted prose, a simple note will also bring comfort and good cheer.

    If you have been meaning to write a letter so someone and are having a hard time getting started, remember the words of Mother Theresa. She said that, in this life, “we can only do small things with great love.” Keep it short and simple. And if you’ve written a letter and are hesitating to put it in the mailbox, try stepping away and looking at it the next morning with fresh eyes. Then, send it. Because, as successful writers say, “Done is better than perfect.”

    “I am a little pencil in the hand of God who is sending a love letter to the world.”

    – Mother Theresa

    Here are some of our favorite tools for letter writing:

    The Stationery Stash

    How many times have you found yourself ready to leave for a birthday party, attend a funeral, or celbrate an anniversary and realized you forgot to buy a card? Having a ready stash of cards, stationery, and even postcards on hand keeps you prepared to reach out any time.

    You can personalize your own stationery or order custom papers from an established stationer. The choices you make will serve as reflections of you and your personality, so take time to select papers, designs and messages that mirror your values and style.

    For an inexpensive option, buy a heavier-weight paper with high-content at your local office store. Then, design and print your own header and footer with a home printer or store copy machine.

    If you don’t have a greeting card on hand for a specific occasion or can’t find the right message, why not add your own message to a pretty, blank notecard from your stash? A simple handwritten card is more personal than one from the store racks, and you’ll save yourself from weeding through thinly-veiled insults, sad cartoon art, and canned jingles.

    Here are a few sources for affordable elegant stationery:

    G. Lalo – Pad of 50 Plain Laid Sheets A5, 100 g, Vergé De France, Ivory

    G. Lalo – Verge De France C6 Envelope, 114 x 162 mm – Ivory, Pack of 25 (fits folded A5 sheet)

    Rossi – Fiorentina Notecard Set 4.25×6.25″ -10/10

    Smythson – Bordered Correspondence Cards

    Smythson – Kings Writing Paper (customized version available)

    Smythson – King Envelopes

    Templates

    When I find myself stuck for words, I often fall back on templates and outlines. You can make your own outlines and templates for each occasion.

    Here’s an example:

    Thank you note:

    Dear ________,

    [Thank you for the ________________.]

    [Something about receiving it – the occasion]

    [Something I like about it]

    [I look forward to enjoying it this way …]

    [Something I value about you (the gift sender)]

    [Complementary close]

    [Your Name]

  • Celebrating Your Name Day

    Celebrating Your Name Day

    Celebrating a name day is a bit like a celebrating a birthday — in reverse. Here’s why …

    First, your name day is celebrated on your patron saint’s feast day — the day he or she died. That means you are celebrating the beginning of a new life in Heaven. You can celebrate the day of the saint associated with your first name or your confirmation name.

    Second, while it’s traditional to receive gifts on your birthday, it’s traditional to celebrate your name day by giving small gifts to friends and family.

    Here are few examples of simple gifts you could give to celebrate a name day:

    • Small treats or confections: Lindt truffles, specialty chocolate bars, or other sweets
    • A holy card with a prayer and image of your patron saint
    • A decorative pen or pencil
    • A small book or blank journal
    • A take-out cup of coffee or small gift certificate from your local tea or coffee shop

    Your name day is an opportunity to draw closer to your patron saint. Make a new friend in Heaven or strengthen an existing relationship. You have a powerful intercessor and model for holiness who is waiting to hear from you!

  • Ember Days

    Ember Days

    Ember days are traditionally set aside four times a year for prayer, fasting, and abstinence. Each succession of three days (a Wednesday, Friday and Saturday) is associated with a feast day and occurs close to a change of season.

    Though fasting and abstinence are no longer required, ember days provide opportunities to offer thanks to God for the gifts of the seasons, to deepen our prayer lives, and to prepare for times of celebration.

    Here’s a traditional rhyme to remind you when ember days occur: Lenty, Penty, Lucy, Crucy.

    Spring ember days in the northern hemisphere occur at the beginning of Lent on the Wednesday, Friday, and Saturday after Ash Wednesday.

    Ideas:

    • Plan a spring garden or pilgrimage
    • Contact a local nursing home and offer to read aloud to a resident whose vision has declined
    • Make a large pot of soup to freeze and share with someone who is sick or not feeling well
    • Donate new and gently used contents of overstuffed closets and cluttered shelves to local thrift stores

    Summer Ember Days occur on the Wednesday, Friday, and Saturday after Pentecost Sunday.

    Ideas:

    • Create and share a simple arrangement of summer flowers
    • Pray for newly ordained priests in your diocese and all clergy taking on new parish assignments
    • Pray a rosary for the Holy Father
    • Share vegetables from your garden or a local farm with neighbors or a local monastery

    Fall ember days occur on the Wednesday, Friday, and Saturday after September 14, the feast of the Exaltation of the Holy Cross.

    Ideas:

    • Give thanks to God for all that He has given you this year
    • Observe the mid-September Harvest Moon
    • Learn about the stars and observe the wonder of God’s creation at a local stargazing event
    • Make a local pilgrimage or plan a pilgrimage for next Spring

    Winter ember days occur on the Wednesday, Friday, and Saturday after December 13, the feast of St. Lucy.

    Ideas:

    • Offer your fasting and prayers for those in need
    • Make a donation to a local food bank or homeless shelter using the money you are saving on food.
    • Make and send greeting cards to prisoners or those in nursing homes
    • Offer to help an elderly person write and send holiday cards to family members or friends

  • Restoring Sundays

    Restoring Sundays

    Do you remember Sundays when stores were closed, families gathered for afternoon dinner, and neighbors left their lawnmowers in the shed?

    Sunday has now become like any other day. “Blue laws” are quaint regulations from the past. Sports teams travel. Businesses open their doors. Noisy lawn and construction equipment keep neighborhoods and cities groomed and repaired.

    Yet for Christians, making Sunday different is not only a matter of tradition. It’s a matter of justice — that of giving the Creator the worship He is due. The catechism of the Catholic church identifies this justice toward God as the virtue of religion.[1] Even God rested after working 6 days. And He requires us to do the same, placing this commandment in the list even before those concerning lying, stealing, and killing:

    “Remember the sabbath day, to keep it holy. Six days you shall labor, and do all your work; 10 but the seventh day is a sabbath to the Lord your God; in it you shall not do any work, you, or your son, or your daughter, your manservant, or your maidservant, or your cattle, or the sojourner who is within your gates; 11 for in six days the Lord made heaven and earth, the sea, and all that is in them, and rested the seventh day; therefore the Lord blessed the sabbath day and hallowed it. [2]

    Here are a few ways to honor Sunday:

    • Attend Holy Mass
    • Read a spiritual book
    • Take a nap
    • Take a walk or hike a trail
    • Invite family or friends to your home for a cookout or potluck
    • Visit a friend, relative, or neighbor

    Setting aside Sundays is now countercultural and may be difficult to carry out depending on individual work obligations. Does it seem impossible to take Sundays off? Do not lose hope — pray for an answer!

    The Archconfraternity of the Holy Face of Jesus seeks to restore the observance of Sundays and offer reparation for the profanation of Sundays and the Holy Name of God. Learn more about the Holy Face here:

    Notes:

    [1]“Catechism of the Catholic Church – IntraText.” (CCC) www.vatican.va, Libreria Editrice Vaticana, 1993, www.vatican.va/archive/ENG0015/__P65.HTM. Accessed 28 May 2025. 3.2.2.2.1807.

    [2] The Holy Bible : Revised Standard Version, Catholic Edition (San Francisco: Ignatius Press, 1994).

  • Mercy 101: A Guide to the Corporal and Spiritual Works

    Mercy 101: A Guide to the Corporal and Spiritual Works

    What is Mercy? And how are we, as Christians, called to it?

    William Shakespeare (1564 –1616), in his Merchant of Venice, offers two complementary concepts of mercy:

    1 – Something that tempers or “seasons” justice” while remaining distinct from it 

    2 – An undeserved gift or action of kindness and love

    In one of the most famous passages of the play, Portia begs Shylock, a moneylender, for mercy on behalf of Antonio, who is unable to pay off a large debt. Her words indicate that mercy is good for both the receiver and the giver:

    The quality of mercy is not strained;

    It droppeth as the gentle rain from heaven

    Upon the place beneath. It is twice blest;

    It blesseth him that gives and him that takes . [1]

    The Seasoning of Justice

    Portia, in her effort to persuade, refers to mercy as an attribute of God allowing the temperance, or “seasoning” of Justice.

    But mercy is above this sceptred sway;

    It is enthronèd in the hearts of kings,

    It is an attribute to God himself;

    And earthly power doth then show likest God’s

    When mercy seasons justice. [2]

    Justice is often misunderstood to be associated with harsh or negative judgement. However, it is rightly understood in a positive light as being concerned with giving others what is rightly due to them. For example, offering worship to God is an act of justice. [3]

    So are the following:

    • Honoring God’s Holy Name
    • Paying for purchases at the store
    • Charging fair prices 
    • Saying “Thank you” for gifts and courtesies
    • Putting in an honest work day

    Plato’s Republic begins with a definition from Simonides, a lyric poet whom Socrates calls a “wise and godlike man”: “It is just to give each what is owed to him.” [4] Socrates affirms Justice as a craft and a virtue, understood broadly in that context as a means for achieving excellence. [5]

    Christianity holds justice as one of four cardinal virtues. Virtues are good habits that lead to right behavior and holy lives. Catholic philosopher Joseph Pieper quotes St. Thomas Aquinas: “Justice is a habit (habitus) whereby a man renders to each one his due with constant and perpetual will.” [6]

    “Cardinal” comes from the Latin cardo, meaning hinge. As such, the four virtues of, Prudence, Justice Fortitude, and Temperance, support secondary virtues. Honesty, fortitude and perseverance rest on the hinge of justice, as do diligence and chastity.

    Mercy, on the other hand, is giving more than is owed or demanding less than is required. So while it acts differently than justice, it does not negate it. Mercy can only exist because justice came first. Something was owed. Therefore, a debt may be forgiven.

    The Deeds of Mercy

    A second face of mercy in Portia’s plea points to “deeds of mercy.” These actions serve as vehicles for offering undeserved good to others. Motivated by love, they play a vital part in man’s journey to holiness and salvation.

    In the course of justice, none of us

    Should see salvation: we do pray for mercy;

    And that same prayer doth teach us all to render

    The deeds of mercy. [7]

    The corporal works, found primarily in Christ’s teaching on the Last Judgement in Matthew 25, separate those destined from heaven from those sent to eternal punishment:

    31 “When the Son of man comes in his glory, and all the angels with him, then he will sit on his glorious throne. 

    32 Before him will be gathered all the nations, and he will separate them one from another as a shepherd separates the sheep from the goats, 

    33 and he will place the sheep at his right hand, but the goats at the left.

    34 Then the King will say to those at his right hand, ‘Come, O blessed of my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world; 

    35 for I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me, 

    36 I was naked and you clothed me, I was sick and you visited me, I was in prison and you came to me.’ 

    37 Then the righteous will answer him, ‘Lord, when did we see thee hungry and feed thee, or thirsty and give thee drink? …

    40 And the King will answer them, ‘Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brethren, you did it to me.’ 

    41 Then he will say to those at his left hand, ‘Depart from me, you cursed, into the eternal fire prepared for the devil and his angels’ … [8]

    In Christ’s depiction of the Last Judgement, the Good Shepherd’s division of his flock serves as a warning to the listeners: their souls will also be subject to future judgement. Those who offered food to the hungry and clothing to the naked are rewarded throughout eternity. The “goats” who failed to act in charity are punished forever.

    Putting the works to work

    The Catechism of the Catholic Church affirms the works of mercy as essential to the path to Heaven. Echoing St. Paul’s Letter to the Ephesians, it teaches that the Christian should “strive by works of mercy and charity, as well as by prayer and the various practices of penance, to put off completely the “old man” and to put on the “new man.”  [9]

    So how can we work more of these works of mercy into our everyday lives? Below is a starter list. I invite you to add your own ideas or share them below in the comments.

    Corporal Works of Mercy:

    The corporal works of mercy are charitable actions which meet physical needs. They alleviate suffering from poverty, deprivation, and isolation. Christ taught that when we help the stranger or anyone else in need, we are helping Him. When we refuse, we overlook not only our fellow-man — we overlook our Lord. 

    Here are a few ways we can practice each of the corporal works of mercy.

    • Feed the hungry
      • Donate to your local food bank
      • Provide a meal for someone who is struggling financially or emotionally
      • Give an anonymous grocery gift card to a family that is struggling
      • Invite a neighbor to dinner
      • Support your local farm
      • Feed your family nutritious meals
      • Bring a meal to someone who is sick, recovering from injury, or is caring for a new baby
    • Give water to the thirsty
      • Offer a bottle of water to people who come to your door or provide services for you
      • Hand out water at an athletic event
      • Invite someone over for coffee or tea
      • Volunteer to serve in a soup kitchen
    • Clothe the naked
      • Clean out your closet and give clothes in good repair to a charity or thrift store
      • Volunteer for a clothing bank and fix donations that need mending
      • Provide beautiful skirts for women who don’t have modest clothing for church
      • Donate layette items to your local pregnancy center to support a new mom in need
    • Shelter the homeless
      • Donate to your local homeless shelter
      • Volunteer at your local homeless shelter
      • Provide affordable housing for a student or young family
      • If you are a builder or renter, create good quality affordable housing options
    • Visit the sick
      • Visit a sick friend or relative
      • Bring new or surplus flowers to a nursing home or hospital — for anyone who might be feeling lonely or having a difficult day
    • Visit the imprisoned, or ransom the captive
      • Visit a nursing home or memory care unit
      • Get involved in a prison ministry
      • Contribute to or volunteer with an organization that helps to rescue and transition those who have been enslaved in sex trafficking
    • Bury the dead
      • Attend a funeral at your church – even if you don’t know the family
      • Volunteer to bring food to a funeral reception at your church
      • Provide for the burial needs of a family member or friend in need

    Spiritual works of mercy:

    The spiritual works of mercy address spiritual needs. They allow us to help others answer Our Lord’s call to holiness by teaching, advising, praying for, and consoling others.

    Here are a few examples of ways to perform each spiritual work of mercy.

    • Instruct the ignorant
      • Volunteer as a religious education or RCIA instructor
      • Read to a child
      • Teach in a school
      • Volunteer to lead in a community club such as Boy Scouts or 4-H
    • Counsel the doubtful
      • Volunteer at a crisis pregnancy center
      • Get training and volunteer for a suicide or depression hotline
      • Encourage a friend who is struggling with a moral choice
    • Admonish the sinners
      • Support a friend to make a good choice
      • Teach your children what is right and wrong
      • As a parent, teacher, or co-worker, set a good example of moral and ethical thought and behaviour
    • Bear patiently those who wrong oneself
      • Give someone who offends you the benefit of the doubt
      • Listen carefully and patiently
      • Make an effort to understand the full context of the words and actions of others
    • Forgive offenses
      • Forgive others
      • Forgive yourself
      • Forgive repeatedly — yet avoid letting yourself be put into danger or exploited
    • Comfort the afflicted
      • Send a card or letter to someone who is grieving
      • Attend a wake or funeral
      • Invite those who are recovering from grief over to dinner
    • Pray for the living and the dead
      • Attend a wake and/or funeral and pray for the person who has died
      • Pray for the friends and family members of those who have died
      • Offer a Mass for someone who has died
      • Offer a holy hour for someone — one hour of prayer before the blessed sacrament
      • Pray the rosary for a family member or friend, for the Holy Father, or “whoever needs prayer and has noone to pray for them”

    A Path to Love

    As we practice the works of mercy, we fulfill justice by giving Our Lord the love He is due. And in the process, we grow in holiness.

    Acts of corporal mercy require the sacrifice of our time and possessions. We detach from worldly goods. We grow in magnanimity. We break free from avarice and fear. And we learn to trust Our Lord to provide.

    The spiritual works of mercy demand our time, prayers, and emotions. We not only reach out and give — we give of ourselves.

    In offering forgiveness and bearing wrongs patiently, we suffer personal discomfort and grow in humility.

    In admonishing the sinner, we become aware of our own faults and shortcomings.

    In comforting the afflicted, we develop empathy while perceiving the pain of grief and sitting together through silence that may feel awkward or uncomfortable. 

    Mercy teaches us to love. And with each act of mercy, we answer the call to take up our cross and follow the Great Teacher — the one who is Love Himself.

    Notes

    1. William Shakespeare, The Merchant of Venice, ed. Stanley Appelbaum and Candace Ward (New York: Dover Publications, Inc., 1995), 68–69.

    2. Shakespeare, 69.

    3. The Catechism of the Catholic Church distinguishes between justice to God and justice to Man: 1807 “Justice toward God is called the “virtue of religion. Justice toward men disposes one to respect the rights of each and to establish in human relationships the harmony that promotes equity with regard to persons and to the common good.” See “Catechism of the Catholic Church – IntraText.” (CCC) www.vatican.va, Libreria Editrice Vaticana, 1993, www.vatican.va/archive/ENG0015/__P65.HTM. Accessed 28 May 2025. 3.2.2.2.1807.

    4. Plato, Plato: Complete Works, ed. John M Cooper and D S Hutchinson (Indianapolis, Ind.: Hackett Publishing Company, 1997), 976, 331e.

    5. Plato , p. 980, 335c

    6.  Pieper, Josef. The Four Cardinal Virtues. University of Notre Dame Press, 1990, p. 44.

    7.  “Catechism of the Catholic Church – IntraText,” www.vatican.va (Libreria Editrice Vaticana, 1993), https://www.vatican.va/archive/ENG0015/__P65.HTM, Accessed 28 May 2025. 3.2.2.2.1807.

    8. Shakespeare, p. 69.

    9. The Holy Bible: Revised Standard Version, Catholic Edition (San Francisco: Ignatius Press, 1994).